I guess that alone makes me feisty. But if you've been reading my blog lately, you know I like to reference the dictionary to make sure I really understand what it means vs my interprestation. So The Free Dictionary Online has:
Feist-y
1. Touchy; quarrelsome.
2. Full of spirit or pluck; frisky or spunky.
Hmmm, I like to be considred full of spirit or pluck. Filled with pluck...pretty cool huh. Frisky and spunky are pretty desirable attributes in my book too, but touchy or quarrelsome...not so much. Although, if I'm going to walk my talk. I have to own both sides of the coin; otherwise it's a bit of denial. So yes I have my moments of touchy and quarrelsome at times too.
And, without getting too psychological, because of some nasty experiences with rage-full people, I resisted owning that I may have had some anger at times which could result in the touchy and quarrelsome behavior because I didn't want to be an angry or mean person. Yes my inner logic didn't totally fly as there is appropriate anger, but my mind would do that pendulum swing of all or nothing sometimes. Can you relate?
Yes I understand know that life is a gradation of grays and not black and white. And the opposite side of touchy and quarrelsome aka black is plucky and spunky aka white. In my denial of the black...I also denied myself the pleasure of the white (or the gray in between). And I guess I it took me a while to proudly own my feisty once I even realized I had it. And trust me, now I know I have it in the black, the white and the more than 50 shades of gray in between...
And a current and appropriate representation of feisty comes from an icon of feisty, P!nk (yes if you read my post concert blog I have a girl crush). A friend recently told me there was something on YouTube about her stopping in the middle of a ballad while in concert because of a crying child and fighting parents. Oops, I was about to give the story away. Watch this!
And as an icon for feisty, I also feel that her F**kin Perfect video is a great example of misunderstood feisty. And the concept of Perfect most definitely gets my feisty up. That is because mostly there is a stepford style of perfection that is implied with this word. So when you are limited by the fairy tale images of perfection that you have in your head, more often than not. everything falls short of perfection, which can leave people feeling defeated and deflated. However, if we see perfection as a journey and not an end goal. we can begin to breath. And if we take it a step further and realize that,wherever we are in the moment, we have perfection because it is an opportunity/gift of the moment. If things are in alignment or better than our fairy tale image, then its an opportunity to be grateful and make the most of it and actually enjoy our lives. And if it is uncomfortable and challenging, its an opportunity to be courageous by holding space for the emotional angst and mental masturbation your probably going through over i... or, even better, turning this lemon into lemonade, by making a lifestyle change to alter the course of where you are. And remember life is change, just because something is enjoyable and comfortable today doesn't mean it will stay that way...did I say Perfection is a journey. So life is always givings us opportunities to practice and live perfection in action and not in our minds. I told you it brought my feisty up.
P!nk said in concert that she's omitting the F**kin (one of my favorite expletives) now that she's a mother. So I have another F word to substitute and although it would be a mouthful to sing it, I'll imagine she's singing Feistily perfect... So enjoy this too.
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