Unconditional Love does Not Mean Unconditional Like

Like I said in yesterdays blog...I don't know how things are going to go.  And as I was laying in bed wondering how close it was for the alarm to go off, I thought, oh shit, I forgot to comment yesterday that unconditional love does not mean unconditional like.  Like is about preference and flavors.  Love to me is more like a generous spirit, being kind, being present with the people you are interacting with...it is expressed more by the tone in your voice than the words I love you.  Unconditional love because your not attached to outcome also isn't about being in love or loving someone or something.  Loving someone is just a 10 on the like scale just like hating something is on 0 (zero) and of the scale and that is based on our preferences for the flavors things come in.  Some people like things tart or spicy or sweet...some like things simple some like their food nutty and fruity...a flavor can't be wrong it's just preference right.

I also woke up thinking, oh shit, I should have also dedicated this blog to my friend Alyce Santoro. Here is a link to her blog and her website.   I don't know why I left her anonymous as she is the one who lovingly pointed out that I am a love activist.  She is a creative genius and creator of that sonic fabric dress that I put in that Feb. 2013 photo on yesterdays blog.  Yes it was made with cassette tapes in the weave.  I had to different colors, purple had the sounds or NYC while the black had the sacred Om.  And she was generous enough to pass along Julio her designer friend to make the dress.  Heck it's a great dress so here it is again, but this time with a mutual friend of Alyce and I, Tom.

Have I mentioned that I digress.  Well she had an exhibit in NYC in early January.  And one of the ways I like to be loving is to share creative genius when I can.  So I told many friends about the exhibit so Alyce would have standing room only (ok also prone to exaggeration to, it was an exhibit not a performance - everyone was standing) and they could benefit from creative genius.  One of my friends, Llorraine Niethardt, another creative genius, showed up.  (So here is her website and check out her Venus Unplugged blog talk radio and her handmade shoes and her...did I say genius...) She and I went out for a drink and The World Needs More Love Letters (I still need to get to work, but this is also genius and I think the most important thing any of us can do...get out of our own shit and give some loving support anonymously to a stranger...so for now check out the link and this TED video on the founder) and the idea to throw unconditional love letter parties was inspired through that.  So if your read yesterdays blog, you know how I was talking about the ripples of love...can you see what I mean...it's like the shampoo commercial that says and you tell two friends and they tell two friends and so on and so on....

And since I'm anxious to read my next fortune of the day I don't want to wait to long to comment on the very first love fortune which is "I love how sentimental you can get."  I have to admit my negative voices often here sappy when I here sentimental because I was a crier when I was a kid.  Hell I still am but when I was a kid it came from fear and sadness...now I cry when I'm happy, I even cry when I'm angry (actually I warn you if that happens it means I'm irate and I've realized that I'm crying because either because the intensity of my rage is scaring me or it's my bodies way of putting a putting water on the fire like a fire hydrant), I cry when I'm touched...now I find it empowering before I had shame.  So I guess it's ok to be sappy but the fortune said sentimental.  So I'm going to consult Webste's yet again, and that dictionary says a : marked or governed by feeling, sensibility, or emotional idealism.  I like being a love idealist and love is an emotion...well really a state of being and another e-dictionary says, 1. Of or prompted by feelings of tenderness, sadness, or nostalgia: "she felt a sentimental attachment to the place creep over her".  So I guess for me sentimental is what I used to have shame over and now am empowered.  Life really is about turning lemons into lemonade...

Oh and drum roll please...the fortune for today is "I Love that You that you are always genuinely gracious."  So I'm going to be with this with one through out the day and see what arises...more to blog tonight!!!